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August 15, 2010
23:13
Comment on jumping around by Kelly
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Awesome speech!!! Super well done.
11:37
Comment on jumping around by Hannah
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“But the problem is, you can’t be a little bit equal. It’s not equality if you exclude us from marriage.”

Fabulous line – great speech! Thanks so much for speaking up. Wish I’d been there (was battling flu germs), but glad that much more eloquent people were there to represent us.
3:58
Comment on jumping around by Shannon
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You guys are pretty darn great. I wish I knew you better but what I do know is rather spectacular. Keep up the good fight — you’re (obviously) on the side of good!
0:33
Comment on jumping around by E. from Pot of Gold
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Really, really great speech. I’m so proud of your activism. It starts from the ground up. Also, I think it was probably hard to give the speech with the Twinkle on your hip, but probably that much more effective for anyone watching who did not agree with us.
August 14, 2010
20:51
Comment on jumping around by nicky
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that is a really excellent speech!
17:57
Comment on jumping around by owlie
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brilliant speech, made me teary. so sorry we missed it and couldn’t be there to support you.

piggy has already asked those marriage questions and i can honestly say it was the hardest conversation we have had with her. i find it easier to explain why unborn babies die, why people murder or why pcat doesn’t talk to her family, than it is to explain why people we don’t know have decided that we can’ have equality.

well done on getting up there to speak, you are so brave, clever and wise. i want to be like you when i grow up.
14:09
Comment on jumping around by Clark
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I have to say it again – you were amazing. Very powerful speech, and it was so lovely to see you and the Twinkle up there. Thank you for representing us so eloquently.
August 02, 2010
9:16
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by jen
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amen. amen. amen. to all that above.

Maybe if you had nothing better to do with your life than get your spray tan and your botox done, I’d be tut-tutting. But that would still really be “hello kettle, this is the pot calling”. Porridge? Meh. Patrick’s hair often only gets washed at weekly intervals. Snot is a fashion statement. I cry often and lots. Sometimes it is because of the frustration of parenting, sometimes because of some tragedy at work. It means you’re human.

You are not a bad parent. You are a loving parent. You focus on the things that matter. Undies schmundies. (We have trouble getting them to stay ON, but that’s a different story).
July 25, 2010
22:12
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by owlie
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i distinctly remember saying aloud ’1 was hard, 2 was harder, 3 is the worst’, I think just as I peaked with Piggy an thought I couldn’t handle the fighting and arguing and tiredness of fighting with a 3 yr old she settled down and started to be a little more equal, started negotiating.
( i also happened to be pregnant and wondered what i was going to do with two of them)

and screw a dirty face – maybe you forget to wipe her face before day care but I’ve watched you intensely concentrate on what she is trying to say and interpret it, and then help unfamiliar listeners talk with her too, and never have I seen you get frustrated or give up- so i reckon you use your time wisely, I know I’d prefer a mum that listened to me and helped me be heard rather than a mum that made sure my face was sparkly clean.

and i have many a bad parenting story to tell…but this is not my blog!

you and k are beautiful parents and I have a super soft spot for the twinkle.
July 22, 2010
12:57
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by minnie
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I spent all Monday weeping and part of Tuesday. also, in the car while Jack was having a tantrum I screamed as loud as i could in a pointless angry effort to get himt o shut the eff up. it did work but i felt like a total assface. and then i felt worse that while i spent the rest of the day crying he would come up and pat my arm and say ‘it’s okay mom”.

We spend a fairly aggravating amount of time cajoling , reprimanding, begging, etc.

I think it gets better when they are like 10. *weep*
July 21, 2010
21:55
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by Clark
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A resounding YES that it is that hard for us too. Every stage has its challenges and tears all round are common at our place. The speech thing makes it harder too – I remember that with FenFox. And now we’re investigating McBean for similar issues (though still hoping we’re being paranoid and over enthusiastic and he’ll just get it even though the paediatrician doesn’t think so).

Hugs to you all.
19:45
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by sorenson
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bloody hard. happy to share notes any day.
16:02
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by E. from Pot o' Gold
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“Is it hard for everyone?” Yeah, I’d say so. Some days feel like drudgery. Hang in there, and know there are others in your camp, even if we’re across the world.

Nice new look to the blog.
14:42
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by Fiona
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In answer to K’s question, ‘is it this hard for everyone?’ well, yeah. For some of us, at least. I recall one day when I just could not stop crying (and we had that exact same book, by the way!) All I can say is ages 5 and 6 are so much better. I saw someone refer to the ages 6-12 as ‘the years of latency’ and that made me laugh!

I have a nephew who seems to have a very similar thing happening with speech. He’s six months younger (I think his only regular word at this stage is ‘NO’!) He also has fantastic comprehension and clever ideas. He can follow detailed instructions perfectly, he understands words and has a big receptive vocabulary, but he just doesn’t speak yet. They are not on a list at all for speech therapy and pretty much are of the mind that ‘he’ll speak when he is ready’. I’m wondering now if they should be looking at getting some help?
14:28
Comment on i know we’ll be fine if we learn to love the ride by nicky
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While things are exacerbated for the twinkle because of her issue with speech, I think 3 is generally hard. I’ve always said that what I don’t like about toddlers is that they can argue with you, but you can’t reason with them. They can tell us all sorts of things and seem very grown up, but they’re still babies in many ways.

It seems at the moment a huge chunk of any day with Leila is taken up with trying to work out what it is she wants, negotiate a compromise, or arguing to get her to do what she’s asked (like sit on the toilet or get dressed) through a miasma of yelling, tears and screaming. I don’t know how working mums get themselves and their little ones out the door morning after morning without everyone ending up in tears. I’m kind of fortunate in a way that this is my second time around, though, and I know that in a very short space of time it will get easier … and there’ll be a whole new set of challenges …
May 04, 2010
11:59
Comment on c’mon join the joyride by jen
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nice to see you back

I found Juanita Phillips’ book excellent- and hadn’t expected to. I’m now tempted to buy a pressure cooker, if just for the rice cooking ability

[www.harpercollins.com.au]
April 30, 2010
21:13
Comment on c’mon join the joyride by owlie
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yay for words on this page. i’ve missed them.
April 29, 2010
1:42
Comment on c’mon join the joyride by E.
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Yay.

That’s how I felt when I read Rachel from The Real World’s book. It’s amazing how parenting can be a unifier when we see the world differently in so many other ways.
April 28, 2010
8:29
Comment on by E.
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Hi, I miss the commentary on your blog. I’m sure you have a reason for the radio silence, but I just wanted to let you know.
April 06, 2010
9:53
Comment on by jen
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heh! does she share her bed with lots of toys? I’m sure thee are more toys than boy in Patrick’s bed most of the time.
March 23, 2010
7:57
Comment on by owlie
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I love your kid. I take it the new baby factory is going well?
1:07
Comment on by E, SS and the Little Man
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Oh, she must just make you laugh every night with her antics.
March 11, 2010
21:28
Comment on when i get home to you by Fiona
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That is truly a beautiful photograph! Loved the radio interview. Must have been hard to be in the public gaze like this – gutsy effort!
March 02, 2010
8:39
Comment on when i get home to you by When do we get the toaster
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Well done you! It is indeed fabulous and amazing. The most amazing in my mind is that we really are just living our lives like everyone else and now people get to see that! Lots!
March 01, 2010
8:01
Comment on when i get home to you by jen
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I just listened to the interview: you have such a good voice for radio! I’m glad they covered the actual story, too…

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